Building Self-Confidence in a Child:

How building self-confidence in a child is impacted by events:

If we are a reflection of our inner beliefs than what is imprinted early on our developing minds is of the utmost importance. If a mother is stripped of her self-esteem and self-confidence, it can only pass on to the child. If she is left helpless to defend herself, then her children will suffer, as in turn she cannot defend them. So the first step in building self-confidence in a child is to build self-confidence in the mother.

The simple act of touching such as hugging is one of the most important ways in which a parent can give a child a sense of security and self-worth. A study was done in an orphanage where one wing of the building had a far lower mortality rate due to crib death than the rest of the ward. After investigation it was discovered that a night nurse in that wing would take each baby and hold them a few minutes every night on her shift to comfort them. So such things can truly be a matter of life and death.

One of the gravest forms of mental abuse to a mother is to convince her that she cannot take care of her own children, and must give up a vital part of life itself by relinquishing control of her children to another.

This excerpt from “Firewalker” is an example of witnessing just such an occurrence as a child first hand, showing how Building self-confidence in a child is affected when this happpens.

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EXCERPT:

“Madness takes many forms, yet, if accepted, sanity in turn is touted as madness…”

I wandered outside and lay in the meadow grass in front of the trailer; the ground cooled my back as I watched the clouds drifting by. I heard the strains of a discussion through the open kitchen window close by. Pavel was addressing the women again. I heard my Mom talking in low tones, and detected a hint of objection in my mother’s voice, but could not catch what she said. Pavel responded.

“You have done a wise thing to entrust your children to me. You know you are not fit to do the job yourself. What would you do without me? You could not make it out there, struggling in the hard world. Your children would suffer terribly, as would you. In my enlightenment I have been shown the right way. So I tell you now, you should not be hugging your children in the corrupt state that you live in.”

“No hugging?” her voice trailed off...

“They will sense your corruption, you will damage them. Only my wife Sandra is pure enough of heart to hug the children. They must not be tainted by the selfish emotional needs of the mother.”

Mom accepted this warped reality. I could picture Sandra’s smug face without looking through the window; I knew the look of superiority she wore during these talks.

I picked at the grass that tickled my leg. I didn’t need hugs. Hugging, after all, must be bad, and Sandra never spared hugs for anyone but her own children.

The sound of the lecture bell brought me back out of my thoughts. I sighed and went inside, taking my place by the kitchen table. I glanced at Mom; she looked very tiny, as if she had withdrawn inside herself, a look of sad resignation on her face.

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Building self-confidence in a child is the first step towards a better world.

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