Interview On Women's Self-Esteem Self-Help topic

This is an excerpt from an interview I did with Phoenix and Phoenix Literary Publicists: Interview with Author Lyca Shan on the topic of Women's Self-Esteem:

Self-Esteem Self-Help Interview Question #1:

Why do you suppose some women attract a certain element of chaos into their lives?

Answer:

I believe that the early influences in our life create a form of inner momentum; basically, I found that the external chaos I was exposed to as a child internalized, creating chaotic energy. Since like energy attracts like, I obviously attracted a lot of chaos into my life because of that. I do believe that once you are aware of this you have the ability to change it. We may be affected by our environment, but I do not believe that it is the sum total of who we become.

Self-Esteem Self-Help Interview Question #2:

Did you recognize your own patterns of behavior and the characteristics of the people you surrounded yourself with?

Answer:

It took me a long time to disengage from my upbringing and really develop my own ability to watch myself in that respect. At that point I could recognize my own destructive behavior in my relationships.

Self-Esteem Self-Help Interview Question #3:

What warning signs can you describe or detail that will help other women in similar situations?

Answer:

If you find that you are consistently suffering from the same kind of emotional scenarios in your life that is one major red light. Repeated patterns have a way of defining your life and whom you choose to become close to. It is easy to place the blame on circumstance or environment, but if you throw a different personality into the same situation the results, and choices would be dramatically different. Knowing this may sound harsh, but it is actually a very liberating realization, as you then understand that you can change your own destiny, and defy those unconscious patterns.